Bystander Information


Direct. Distract. Delegate.

You may find yourself in a situation where you can help prevent sexual violence. Even if you don’t know the person involved, you can still help. Just remember these three options: Be direct (ask if they need help), distract (get the person away from the situation) or delegate (get help from someone else). Remember: You are capable just as you are right now to help end violence.

Ask yourself:

    • Could I play a role here? 
    • If no one intervenes, what will happen? 
    • What are my options? What are the risks? 
    • Is someone else better placed to respond? Who? 
    • Can I be direct, delegate or distract?

Direct

Whether you notice someone in distress at a party, or you’re worried that a friend might be in an abusive relationship – check in with them. Ask them if they need help. Be direct.

Ask the person:

  • “Are you okay?”
  • “I’m worried about you. Do you need help?”
  • “Is something going on?”
  • “Is there someone I can call for you?”
  • “Do you have a ride?”

Distract

If you notice someone is being pursued (physically or verbally), and looks uncomfortable, provide a moment of misdirection for them. It could give them the out they need to get away and be safe.

Say to the person:

  • "Hey, I think someone outside is looking for you."
  • "Did you drop your phone/keys/wallet back there? I’ll show you."
  • “Do you know where the _____ is? Can you show me?”

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Delegate

If you’re hesitant to say something because you don’t know the person that well, or if getting involved feels unsafe, you can delegate. Get help from an authority figure, or a friend of the person you’re concerned about. You can also call the police or tell your RA. Contact the CARE advocate, or a counselor, or use the resources below:

Confidential UCR Resources

24-Hour Resources

Take a Stand

 

Adapted from the Green Dot approach to bystander intervention.

 

 

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