Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. Safety is key. A stalker can be someone you know well, or not at all. Stalking can happen to anyone. If you are being stalked, reach out as soon as possible. Call 911 if you’re in immediate danger. If you’re not in immediate danger, contact a CARE Advocate so that they can help you with local laws, a safety plan, restraining orders and more.
Don’t downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
Danger generally is higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when
a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
The police can help you stay safe. They can also help you learn your rights. Every
state has stalking laws. The stalker may also
have broken other laws by doing things like assaulting you or stealing or destroying your property. See California stalking laws.
Change your routine, arrange for a safe place to stay, and have a friend or relative go places with you. Plan what you will do if the stalker shows up at your home, work or school.
When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date and place. Keep emails, phone messages, letters and notes. Photograph any property they damage or injuries they cause. Ask witnesses to write down what they saw.
Don’t communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
Consider getting a restraining order that tells the stalker to stay away from you. CARE Advocates can help you do that.