Abuse looks different in every relationship, but a common factor is a partner that wants to control and devalue you. Abuse may be physical, sexual, psychological or financial. It’s just as common among same-sex couples as it is among heterosexual couples. Abusive behavior can be subtle and may develop over time.
1. Watch these videos to help you identify abusive behavior.
2. Use the anonymous, free One Love MyPlan app to determine if your relationship is unsafe and create a safety plan. You can also chat live with a trained advocate 24/7.
3. Ask yourself if your partner:
4. The fact that you’re reading this page may be reason enough to know that your relationship has reached an unhealthy point. Remember – you are not alone. We are here to help.
Emergency: Call 911
24/7: Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 800-799-7233 or chat with them here.
UCR: Call our CARE Advocates (951-827-6225). CARE Advocates know it takes time to leave an abusive relationship. They're here to help you feel supported and stay safe.
While you can’t control your partner’s abusive behavior, you can take action to keep yourself as safe as possible.A safety plan is an individualized, practical guide that lowers the risk of harm. It can help you make changes that keep you safer at school, home and work.